Thank you for this! Comedy is my favorite genre because you're absolutely right - when done well, there's a lot of vulnerability behind it. I used to want to intellectualize everything too, but now I see the value in lightness. We all deserve rest!
Thank you for sharing your intimate and intrinsic life with your audience. I read you, took notes and I realize you have got it.
And I want to be the first to thank you for your intelligence to know, you can't do it by yourself. With that said, whether you sought a therapist or were recommended by proper authority, you have a supportive therapist to whom you are accountable. And will filter and hinge your thinking and behavior in ways you trust. No one, you have entrusted your life to the care of ultimate health care.
By this note, you are ahead of your peers certainly in ways they have not considered the post-trauma in their own lives but refuse to treat because of the negative image associated with a psycho-therapist.
I know you “got it” because in your innocence navigating the abnormalcy is not foreign to us. As Dr. Joy Degruy's tour de force studies entitled Post Traumatic Slave Syndrome/Disorder alludes all Black folks are impacted by the trauma of slavery, over 300 years of bondage, 100 years of Jim Crow, and 200 years of American deception and hypothesis without treatment like Dr. Joy suggest we have learned to navigate abnormalcy as normacy.
As you said, thinking you had mastered resting was a great illusion: Podcasts, viewing videos, and reading Bell Hook’s books. That came out of post-traumatic slavery syndrome/disorder. We were taught inappropriate behaviors and how to navigate the American dream without a therapist.
When you realize that everything did not need to be analyzed
• “…obsession with trying to know everything damn thang.”
• “While I admire my ability to fill this brain up with as much as possible, I started to see how much it increased my anxiety.”
What jumped out at me, was when you were explaining you never made your “intelligence your whole personality,” and you proceeded to say,
Even during my self-care days, I over-intellectualize too much.”
But the sentence in that paragraph that grabbed me,
“ as a black woman life is already hard enough working in a capitalist, racist patriarchal society.
It grabbed me because the magnitude stretches across the National spectrum into what Kimberle Crenshaw called intersectionality
“how multiple forms of oppression can overlap and create unique experiences.” Kimberley Crenshaw
The reason I know you got it is because you told us in the essay,
“As I am in my mid-20s and I strive to create a meaningful life that I can look back on and be proud.”
I can assure you if you never write another sentence with what you have accomplished thus far and have contributed to substack and all the other mediums is enough for writers to explore and investigate content and the magic behind what motivates and fuels Kamory Ross.
I love this! I find myself realizing rest means rest! Do nothing! Turn my thoughts off everything! The healing journey is so exciting, but I have learned if I don’t rest. Someway they gonna sit me down! Congrats on going viral!
Have you ever noticed the connection between trust and the loss of arousal? Trust is the foundation of emotional and physical connection. Even casual hookups and friendships rely on trust and allowing ourselves to be somewhat vulnerable. Trust is what leads to love because when we trust someone, we allow ourselves to be vulnerable. That vulnerability, combined with the feeling of safety that trust provides, creates the space where love grows.
This balance of vulnerability and trust is a part of every connection, from casual hookups to family relationships. There are many different levels of trust, yet even the smallest levels can affect our ability to stay aroused.
I believe these truths apply to all living animals, not just humans. Some younger adults or less emotionally developed individuals often need less trust to feel aroused. This isn’t about you personally. Your discussion shows that you are more emotionally and intellectually aware. For many younger people, the excitement of newness often overshadows the need for trust until 28 or so.
In closing, I want to clarify that I’m not trying to correct anyone or suggest that my viewpoint is the only way to live. I’m certainly not saying casual hookups are bad or that trust can’t exist in those connections. Hell yes to casual hookups! But maybe prioritizing certain needs can make the experience even better. And think about your discussion of getting all sloppy during the day is most likely because you trust yourself and you feel comfortable in those situations. I really enjoyed your stream. Yes I’m new here and just wanted to share my own personal experience with arousal and how trust affects it. But this way too long, nobody’s going to read all this anyway. 😉
If this post was an ALBLUM its done gone PLATINUM....Meanwile: mah constant Mantra is: SLOW DOWN. BE KOOL.....or LEARN TO WAIT & LET SHIT MARINATE.....keep slangin deez werds n verbs jes like dat. Preshate U.
Thank you for sharing your intimate and intrinsic life with your audience. I read you, took notes and I realize you have got it.
And I want to be the first to thank you for your intelligence to know, you can't do it by yourself. With that said, whether you sought a therapist or were recommended by proper authority, you have a supportive therapist to whom you are accountable. And will filter and hinge your thinking and behavior in ways you trust. No one, you have entrusted your life to the care of ultimate health care.
By this note, you are ahead of your peers certainly in ways they have not considered the post-trauma in their own lives but refuse to treat because of the negative image associated with a psycho-therapist.
I know you “got it” because in your innocence navigating the abnormalcy is not foreign to us. As Dr. Joy Degruy's tour de force studies entitled Post Traumatic Slave Syndrome/Disorder alludes all Black folks are impacted by the trauma of slavery, over 300 years of bondage, 100 years of Jim Crow, and 200 years of American deception and hypothesis without treatment like Dr. Joy suggest we have learned to navigate abnormalcy as normacy.
As you said, thinking you had mastered resting was a great illusion: Podcasts, viewing videos, and reading Bell Hook’s books. That came out of post-traumatic slavery syndrome/disorder. We were taught inappropriate behaviors and how to navigate the American dream without a therapist.
When you realize that everything did not need to be analyzed
• “…obsession with trying to know everything damn thang.”
• “While I admire my ability to fill this brain up with as much as possible, I started to see how much it increased my anxiety.”
What jumped out at me, was when you were explaining you never made your “intelligence your whole personality,” and you proceeded to say,
Even during my self-care days, I over-intellectualize too much.”
But the sentence in that paragraph that grabbed me,
“ as a black woman life is already hard enough working in a capitalist, racist patriarchal society.
It grabbed me because the magnitude stretches across the National spectrum into what Kimberle Crenshaw called intersectionality
“how multiple forms of oppression can overlap and create unique experiences.” Kimberley Crenshaw
The reason I know you got it is because you told us in the essay,
“As I am in my mid-20s and I strive to create a meaningful life that I can look back on and be proud.”
I can assure you if you never write another sentence with what you have accomplished thus far and have contributed to substack and all the other mediums is enough for writers to explore and investigate content and the magic behind what motivates and fuels Kamory Ross.
Thank you for this! Comedy is my favorite genre because you're absolutely right - when done well, there's a lot of vulnerability behind it. I used to want to intellectualize everything too, but now I see the value in lightness. We all deserve rest!
Thank you for sharing your intimate and intrinsic life with your audience. I read you, took notes and I realize you have got it.
And I want to be the first to thank you for your intelligence to know, you can't do it by yourself. With that said, whether you sought a therapist or were recommended by proper authority, you have a supportive therapist to whom you are accountable. And will filter and hinge your thinking and behavior in ways you trust. No one, you have entrusted your life to the care of ultimate health care.
By this note, you are ahead of your peers certainly in ways they have not considered the post-trauma in their own lives but refuse to treat because of the negative image associated with a psycho-therapist.
I know you “got it” because in your innocence navigating the abnormalcy is not foreign to us. As Dr. Joy Degruy's tour de force studies entitled Post Traumatic Slave Syndrome/Disorder alludes all Black folks are impacted by the trauma of slavery, over 300 years of bondage, 100 years of Jim Crow, and 200 years of American deception and hypothesis without treatment like Dr. Joy suggest we have learned to navigate abnormalcy as normacy.
As you said, thinking you had mastered resting was a great illusion: Podcasts, viewing videos, and reading Bell Hook’s books. That came out of post-traumatic slavery syndrome/disorder. We were taught inappropriate behaviors and how to navigate the American dream without a therapist.
When you realize that everything did not need to be analyzed
• “…obsession with trying to know everything damn thang.”
• “While I admire my ability to fill this brain up with as much as possible, I started to see how much it increased my anxiety.”
What jumped out at me, was when you were explaining you never made your “intelligence your whole personality,” and you proceeded to say,
Even during my self-care days, I over-intellectualize too much.”
But the sentence in that paragraph that grabbed me,
“ as a black woman life is already hard enough working in a capitalist, racist patriarchal society.
It grabbed me because the magnitude stretches across the National spectrum into what Kimberle Crenshaw called intersectionality
“how multiple forms of oppression can overlap and create unique experiences.” Kimberley Crenshaw
The reason I know you got it is because you told us in the essay,
“As I am in my mid-20s and I strive to create a meaningful life that I can look back on and be proud.”
I can assure you if you never write another sentence with what you have accomplished thus far and have contributed to substack and all the other mediums is enough for writers to explore and investigate content and the magic behind what motivates and fuels Kamory Ross.
Preston J Cole
That title is Truth.
I love this! I find myself realizing rest means rest! Do nothing! Turn my thoughts off everything! The healing journey is so exciting, but I have learned if I don’t rest. Someway they gonna sit me down! Congrats on going viral!
Have you ever noticed the connection between trust and the loss of arousal? Trust is the foundation of emotional and physical connection. Even casual hookups and friendships rely on trust and allowing ourselves to be somewhat vulnerable. Trust is what leads to love because when we trust someone, we allow ourselves to be vulnerable. That vulnerability, combined with the feeling of safety that trust provides, creates the space where love grows.
This balance of vulnerability and trust is a part of every connection, from casual hookups to family relationships. There are many different levels of trust, yet even the smallest levels can affect our ability to stay aroused.
I believe these truths apply to all living animals, not just humans. Some younger adults or less emotionally developed individuals often need less trust to feel aroused. This isn’t about you personally. Your discussion shows that you are more emotionally and intellectually aware. For many younger people, the excitement of newness often overshadows the need for trust until 28 or so.
In closing, I want to clarify that I’m not trying to correct anyone or suggest that my viewpoint is the only way to live. I’m certainly not saying casual hookups are bad or that trust can’t exist in those connections. Hell yes to casual hookups! But maybe prioritizing certain needs can make the experience even better. And think about your discussion of getting all sloppy during the day is most likely because you trust yourself and you feel comfortable in those situations. I really enjoyed your stream. Yes I’m new here and just wanted to share my own personal experience with arousal and how trust affects it. But this way too long, nobody’s going to read all this anyway. 😉
The end of this made me smile 😊
I am very much an intellectual person...a polymath, perhaps I should calm and rest a bit and let whatever happens happen
If this post was an ALBLUM its done gone PLATINUM....Meanwile: mah constant Mantra is: SLOW DOWN. BE KOOL.....or LEARN TO WAIT & LET SHIT MARINATE.....keep slangin deez werds n verbs jes like dat. Preshate U.
Obsessed no words 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭🙏🙏🙏🙏
Like no words omfg
idk if you saw the post but whoreible decisions are now done w their podcast!!😭💔
Mmm amazing read
Thank you for sharing your intimate and intrinsic life with your audience. I read you, took notes and I realize you have got it.
And I want to be the first to thank you for your intelligence to know, you can't do it by yourself. With that said, whether you sought a therapist or were recommended by proper authority, you have a supportive therapist to whom you are accountable. And will filter and hinge your thinking and behavior in ways you trust. No one, you have entrusted your life to the care of ultimate health care.
By this note, you are ahead of your peers certainly in ways they have not considered the post-trauma in their own lives but refuse to treat because of the negative image associated with a psycho-therapist.
I know you “got it” because in your innocence navigating the abnormalcy is not foreign to us. As Dr. Joy Degruy's tour de force studies entitled Post Traumatic Slave Syndrome/Disorder alludes all Black folks are impacted by the trauma of slavery, over 300 years of bondage, 100 years of Jim Crow, and 200 years of American deception and hypothesis without treatment like Dr. Joy suggest we have learned to navigate abnormalcy as normacy.
As you said, thinking you had mastered resting was a great illusion: Podcasts, viewing videos, and reading Bell Hook’s books. That came out of post-traumatic slavery syndrome/disorder. We were taught inappropriate behaviors and how to navigate the American dream without a therapist.
When you realize that everything did not need to be analyzed
• “…obsession with trying to know everything damn thang.”
• “While I admire my ability to fill this brain up with as much as possible, I started to see how much it increased my anxiety.”
What jumped out at me, was when you were explaining you never made your “intelligence your whole personality,” and you proceeded to say,
Even during my self-care days, I over-intellectualize too much.”
But the sentence in that paragraph that grabbed me,
“ as a black woman life is already hard enough working in a capitalist, racist patriarchal society.
It grabbed me because the magnitude stretches across the National spectrum into what Kimberle Crenshaw called intersectionality
“how multiple forms of oppression can overlap and create unique experiences.” Kimberley Crenshaw
The reason I know you got it is because you told us in the essay,
“As I am in my mid-20s and I strive to create a meaningful life that I can look back on and be proud.”
I can assure you if you never write another sentence with what you have accomplished thus far and have contributed to substack and all the other mediums is enough for writers to explore and investigate content and the magic behind what motivates and fuels Kamory Ross.
Preston J Cole
Thank you very much!