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It only took me one situationship to realize I want love and to have a boyfriend and I know I’m supposed to attract and not chase but damn I’m not attracting noting atm

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My husband cooks for me everyday :)

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love the title lmfao

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Lmaooo idk why but when you said you don’t wanna wake up to a nigga snoring, I thought of binz by Solange where she was like “wake up to that nigga, leave he behind”

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Awww I love your voice!! I love listening to your thoughts!!

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Imagined being chained

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Lmao the title I absolutely love it. Because it’s valid.

And I’m not in the dating scene anymore but hearing this perspective of men from multiple women has been a constant. I believe (in theory) that as the generations pass, the male population has become less dependable because women have become more dominant while also having the burden yet strength to still do ALL of the other things. And there are many reasons for this.

But girl, you’ll find the one who’s going to match your vibe and reciprocate the emotional expression that is mature not sassy or completely lacking. Putting it out there for you!!

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It makes alll the difference having a man emotionally available.

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You still have to eat. Cook for you, cook for him, just cook.

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I’m such a clingy partner. I want to eat, sleep, breathe them..until I don’t and need to be by myself.

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Did I miss the link for the app?

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It’s in there. It’s hyperlinked!

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25yr old men are soo childish. but..sometimes I think if they ALSO have enough maturity to lock in when you both need to be at serious times, if he can be consistent and considerate of you, it’s something I can look past

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25 is a rough age for a lot of us

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Troy suggests  Dr. Kamory “does get it.”  but does she really?  (we know she does since she is the author.)

Her character Troy’s  vulnerabilities and he claims he is not ready to settle down with his girlfriend, alas, which coincides with the  African adage of a twin flame the concept is authentic and perhaps, a signal, that he desires her burning spirit since he has to claim loves her,  but he doesn't want her to know.

Is Troy scared as Dr. Kamory diagnosis suggests or his reason  for not wanting to settle down legitimate?

He wants to fix himself, perhaps, from his defects, short comings, and financial instability.  He knows it wont work?   He going to Cali.       And he honestly feels by wedging a separation, he has an opportunity not only to fix himself, but to allow her to heal for the  responsibility and accountability of two mature people tying the knot.

The question raised  can Dr. Kamory separate her feelings, fears and her vulnerabilities, if she decides to accept the twin flame as an emotional arc, moving  the romantic needle  into her will and her would-be-significant other, the story takes off.

As they are the necessary  “twin flame” of opposite attracts, a possibility, will she risk her professional guise,  tripping over her own relevant vulnerabilities and fears — as an unavoidant friend  or move forward with nothing but a friend acting as a therapist for the twin flame he shares becomes, perhaps, a short tale denouement.

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thank you for talking about it! I felt all the sighs you sighed lmao 😂

I am learning to be at peace with the thought that I may actually never find love. Like as much as we want it, we must also acknowledge that there is world where romantic love is simply not in the cards (the mere possibility of it hurts but hey) but one thing we will not do is settle or suffer in love. Relationships (all kind and forms) are literally the backbone of life and we don’t talk enough about how men (the entity) are laaaccckiiiingggg, y’all need to catch up 😭

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Lmao my husband is a Taurus, this post feels like a glimpse into his brain. I know he loves the home we've made but it's affection on his terms. In case you were curious, I'm a libra and our balance seems to work. I often feel like he grounds me and brings me back down to earth when I'm overthinking etc.

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